Friday, June 19, 2009

vivi tries them so you don't have to

This week has been all about new things; a couple of new summer shirts for me and Stéph, a pair of shoes for me:

new shoes

and a new haircut tomorrow morning. Then there's the newness of Fry's standing up (and almost sitting back down without freaking out), periods of independent play and how he charms every person he meets.

So with all this newness, I thought I'd try a couple of these new (to me!) sodas that keep catching me eye. I'm not a big soda drinker (any more) but for some reason Orangina's wacky flavors keep calling out to me. If you've not heard of Orangina, it's a lovely orange soda with real bits of orange pulp and quite tasty.

But orange isn't what you'd think of when you see this:

Orangina cowboy

Yes, it's called Cowboy. Yee haw. Yep, it's orange mint. Actually, it's Orangina with mint syrup. Lots of mint syrup. Pass. (So much of a pass I told Stéphane he has to finish it!)

I didn't start off very well, but I couldn't stop myself!

Orangina Indien

Can't have Cowboys without Indians, can ya? This one is orange grenadine, and I'm happy to report we have a winner! It's not nearly as sickeningly sweet as the mint one, and is actually quite refreshing, like the original Orangina.

There's one other flavor out there called Orangina Rouge, which I presume is blood oranges? If I'm not soda-ed out by next week I may pick up a bottle and try it.

This weekend I'm leaving the testosteronies at home and going off on some adventures! If you keep your eyes peeled, you may be able to find me elsewhere on the internets... and that's all I'll say for now! You kids have a great weekend!

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Dear French person driving in the parking lot,

Look, I know you're a busy guy. Just because we live in a Tiny Town doesn't mean we're not movers and shakers with people to see and places to go. But dude (for you are usually a guy), it is not necessary to fly through the parking lot at 70/kph. I promise you, your stinky cheese will be there when you get in the store.

Also, stop honking at me for having the audacity to reverse slowly out of my parking space right when you're trying to go by. I can't help it because I can't see you. If seeing a car slowly backing up doesn't slow you down, it's a wonder we haven't seen more kids getting creamed in the parking lot.

I wish I could say I only see you in Tiny Town, but, alas, you have appeared in every single damned parking lot I've ever had the displeasure of dodging you in while in this country.

Finally, if you hit my car while my kid is in it, I will CUT you.

Love,

Vivi.

Monday, June 15, 2009

the unfortunate consequeces of progress

So just when Stéphane and I were congratulating ourselves on our genius offspring, we discovered the downside of Fry learning how to stand up in bed: now that he's learned this new trick, he wants to do it all. the. time. Nap time now means putting him down and waiting for him to cry because he's stood up and can't get back down, not once but usually twice or three times. He just can't help himself. Like a moth to a flame, as soon as I leave the room he's back at it, and he just keeps going until he literally doesn't have the strength to go anymore.

To make things more complicated, Fry has figured out standing up in his baby jail parc after trying and falling over only once. And while I'm so excited for him (the look of joy on his face is palpable) it also means we're seeing lots more frustration, arms and legs stuck between bars, and lots and lots of dings and bonks on the old noggin. Hopefully his head is as hard as his father's.

In a vainglorious effort to force Fry to learn how to get down, we let him cry as long as we can stand it to encourage him to at least try instead of calling for us, but he's a stubborn little bugger and he cried himself purple yesterday. He did the climb and cry routine so much yesterday that he got a total of fifteen minutes of sleep in the afternoon, and that was literally because he'd run out of steam, hand still clinging to a bar of his parc. And just when we thought he'd had enough, he managed to climb and cry twice when we put him down last night.

And again at 6:00 this morning.

Yeah, I got the message. The easy part is over.

Friday, June 12, 2009

on allergies, teething and baby jail

Last week I was sure I'd developed another sinus infection so off I went to see the doctor again (man he must love us now!). No, he said, I was having a really bad allergic reaction. How funny that something I lived with for so long in the States has caught up with me here and I didn't even recognize it! He gave me a month long perscription of a really good allergy medicine - it dissolves on my tongue! it doesn't make me sleepy! (well, sleepier) - and is going to send me to have my allergies tested in September. Woo hoo!!

Meanwhile, we've just ended another fun teething period. Funny, you don't realize how bad it is until it's over. All of a sudden, Fry starts sleeping in until 8 and is way more pleasant to be around.

Finally, Fry is now faster than a speeding bullet! Stéphane's first solution was, "well, we'll just have to keep an eye on him." Yes, you parents can stop guffawing now. After Fry nearly cleared a low shelf of computer CD's, bonked his head on the TV stand, the corner of a brick that holds up the decorative wooden posts in the salon, and nearly turned off Stéphane's computer (ooh shiny!), Stéphane's next solution was to buy the biggest baby jail we could find. This playpen is so big it takes up half our salon, but Fry has plenty of room to move and play. We'd actually bought it the day of my doctor's appointment, so I mentioned it to him, and he said this was the perfect age to buy a playpen as he can also work on pulling himself up to stand. He already reaches up and grabs the bars (baby jail!!) and he can push himself up to stand if he's sitting on my leg so I reckon it won't be long before he puts two and two together.

And that's all! Sorry it's been so quiet around here at Tiny Town Manor, but if all goes well I may be going on an interesting sight seeing trip next weekend so surely some photos of interest will come from that!

Edited to add: Just went to get Fry, who was crying in his bed, probably because he was standing up and didn't know what to do next. So much for two and two!!

Tuesday, June 02, 2009

seven months

Crazy, eh?

Lemme see here, what's new... I think I'm going to have to start keeping notes throughout the month now! First, and most surprising, we can't count on the car anymore to send Fry to sleep. Not that we ever put him in the car expressly to put him to sleep (I used to put him in the stroller and take him for a walk to calm him down) but he used to fall asleep almost immediately. He no longer has milk at lunchtime, but a big jar of veggies (and meat, which we just added last week!) and some applesauce instead (there is a great brand here that makes applesauce in lots of different flavors). So far, this is the only fruit he'll really eat - we've tried banana with very little success, melon, cherry, and a couple of others in season with no avail. We discovered yesterday that he loves pickles, though!

Fry now has two teeth and I expect to see a couple more come in over the next month. As you saw on the video, he's crawling, already faster than that! He also gets up on his knees and over the last couple of days he'll go all the way up on his feet in a downward dog yoga position, which he thinks is hilarious. He can hold his bottle, at least for a few minutes, and we've started practicing with a sippy cup at lunch time. His hair is really coming in now, you can barely see his scalp anymore! He's still chunky but now that he's starting to move I wonder how long we'll be able to say that.

Through it all, Fry is still a remarkably smiley boy, even to the point where he'll smile through his tears. And we've had a few of those, as he discovers how to move around on the floor and flips onto his back a little too fast. He is fascinated by shadows, sunlight streaming in the windows, patterns on fabrics, the texture of Papa's beard and anything that's happening outside. I'm having the time of my life rediscovering the world right along side him.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

in which Vivi forgets she has a blog

Oh hello there! Sorry, it's been a busy few days (for a change!!). What's been going on...

Saturday I hit the road early for the fabric store just outside Troyes. Besides the fact that the internet lied and told me they opened a half hour earlier than they do, I found loads of choices of what I wanted and even picked up some left-handed fabric scissors (bliss!!). I was overconfident though, and only got a meter of one kind of fabric, and now that I've worked with it, it's still too thick so I'm going to have to go back. This time I'll wise up and get a half meter or two or three different fabrics so I don't have to drive all over the Earth every time I want to sew something.

Anyway, in the evening we headed over to Middle Brother's home for a barbecue in honor of MIL's sister and BIL, visiting from Germany. Fry never seems to be able to calm down when we hang out with family (maybe because everyone wants to hold him?) but besides not wanting to sleep he was great. The family surprised me with a birthday cake and I blew out candles for the first time in who knows how many years, so that was nice. It was a pretty great birthday, I have to say.

Monday I picked up our VIP guests Mrs. B and her daughter Rowan from the train station. Every time Mrs B comes to my house (which is twice in three years but hey, she lives in the States now, it's a rough commute) we have an insane heatwave which makes visiting a bit challenging but we managed. It was so great to catch up again and what a treat it was to watch Fry play with Rowan! There were wine, tears and laughter - all the ingredients for a great visit.

Meanwhile, Fry figured out how to crawl yesterday. Since you can't see his face, I got permission from the Security Detail (Stéphane) to show you:


Big booty provided by Bum Genius 3.0

Next up: baby proofing and full time surveillance. Good times!

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

on en a mare (sic)

Seen on our walk yesterday morning. This is one of the gates of the park of Tiny Town's manor (it's technically a "chateau" but it's only a couple hundred years old, it feels funny to call it a castle), which are now the Town Hall and a public park. Anyway, it says "POLICE et GENDARME on en a MARE" which basically translates to "Police and Gendarmes (State Police), we've had it up to HERE." It's hard to take them seriously when they can't spell (should be "marre") but it just goes to show that we're not exempt from graffiti out here in the boonies.

Speaking of boonies, I stumbled on a website that featured postcards from around 1900 of Tiny Town, and you'd think it would be even smaller but in fact it had everything back then! A hospital, a courthouse, and since we're on a river, a mill or two and a couple of factories. All gone now. I'd love to know at what point everything changed. May have to do a little homework...

Sunday, May 17, 2009

clafoutis!

Ah, Spring. It's so lovely to go to the Friday marché and see tables laden with gorgeous fruits and veggies. I don't go every week, but rather when I need to go. My routine is to get a rotisserie chicken for Friday lunch, then make chicken stock with the rest. The stock goes in the freezer and the rest of the meat becomes chicken salad. When I run out of chicken stock, I start over.

Last Friday I was out of chicken stock and very happy to throw Fry (who currently has three teeth coming in at the same time so we're having some real party times around here) in the stroller and head on down to the market. I love going to market and getting inspired by all the produce that's in season. The problem is that what's in season this week might not be in season next time I go, so if I see something that peaks my interest I have to grab it. This time it was great big giant gumball sized cherries.

So I snacked on a couple over the weekend, cut up one really small for Fry to try (that didn't go over too great), and the rest went into a clafoutis, a traditional custard and fruit dessert. It came out pretty good, if not a little burny thanks to our EZ Bake Oven (no temperature control settings). Here's the recipe I used, taken from a French cooking forum:

Clafoutis aux cerises

clafoutis aux cerises

400-500 g (about half a pound) cherries
3 eggs
100 g (just under a cup) flour
80 g (3/8 cup) sugar
2 sachets of sucre vanillé or 2 teaspoons of vanilla extract
a pinch of salt
30 cl (1 1/4 cups) milk or 25 cl (1 cup) milk and a tablespoon of kirsch
powdered sugar
butter for greasing the pan

1) Wash, cut in half and pit cherries. Cover with half the sugar and let macerate for half an hour.

2) Preheat the oven to 180°C (350°F).

3) In a bowl, mix together the flour, salt, the rest of the sugar and the sucré vanillé. (If you're using vanilla extract, wait for the next step.)

4) In another bowl, beat the eggs, add [the vanilla extract if you're using it and] the flour mixture. Mix well. Add the milk and stir until smooth.

5) Place the cherries in the greased baking dish and slowly pour the batter over the cherries. Bake for 35 to 40 minutes.

6) Let the clafoutis cool and then sprinkle with powdered sugar.

Bon appétit !

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Oooh lookey another list

Things I remembered to put in the diaper bag for an afternoon in Troyes:

  • milk
  • applesauce
  • a spoon
  • diapers
  • toys
  • change of clothes
Things I forgot:
  • a bottle to put the milk in
  • the pacifier for nap time
  • his nana (bedtime toy)
  • that putting a blue ice thingie in the bag to keep the milk fresh would probably not go well since there isn't a seperate compartment for the diapers
So that's how I ended up squirting applesauce onto a spoon from a screw top container in a waiting room at the radiologist's while we waited for Fry's sonogram results. Fry did pretty well, considering he hadn't eaten in five hours. Thankfully the doctor was really quick in writing up his results and I only got one spoonful in before we were out the door and on the way to Mémère's house. Geez.

At least we have some good news. Yes, Fry's spleen is a little larger than normal, but it's uniformly larger than normal and was very possibly caused by the really bad gastro he had. Nothing to worry about for now.

Meanwhile, I left Stéphane and Fry to run a couple of errands downtown. Since we got Fry's passport I had to stop by the travel agent's so she could enter our passport numbers into the system. Then it was off to Ellen, my favorite notions shop in Troyes, where I was very sorry to discover that it is going to close soon. Not only are they a great resource for all things sewing, but they had (and actually, still have as of this writing) the largest collection of buttons I've ever seen in a shop. They're currently in liquidation and I literally got the last scraps of linen they had in the place. This will do to start a project I'm working on, but I'm gonna need more eventually! There's another fabric shop in a suburb of Troyes that I'm going to check out sometime, and if all else fails there's always the famous fabric stores in Montmartre, Paris. Boo hoo, right?

On the way back to the car, I got to do something I've wanted to do ever since I moved here - I stepped into the church where Henry V and Catherine were married in 1420. To celebrate finishing the restoration of this 13th century church that has been closed so long Stéphane hasn't even been in it, L'église Saint-Jean-au-Marché (link in French) is celebrating with an exposition (link in English, ha HA!) of sculptures done in Champagne. The fee for the expo is 8€ and since Stéph was waiting for me with Fry and it was getting late, I was happy to finally just get in the door! But mark my words, I'll be back.

Thursday, May 07, 2009

six months

Ok, this is for real the last time I'm going to say this: Wow, I can't believe how fast the time flies by! Six months old, half a year, and literally changing before our eyes.

Unfortunately, this past month will be mostly marked for me by illness. As I said before, I know this is just the first time of many that we'll be taking care of a sick little one, but if I ever said he was sick before this month, it was nothing, nothing compared to what we just went through. I'm happy to say he's completely recovered and, as of today, back on his regular schedule, but there is nothing good about seeing your baby lying listless in his bed, without the wherewithal to even cry out. Poor kiddo.

(Oh, and just to catch up - last Wednesday Fry was still having fevers and gastro issues, so we went back to the Dr. He was afraid that Fry might have a kidney infection, so we had to do a urine sample and we started an antibiotic because it would be Monday before we'd have the results back. By the weekend Fry was doing much better and the results came back fine, it was just a very bad stomach bug.)

We are right on the cusp of having a mobile baby. He can get around his crib quite easily now and flips onto his tummy immediately upon being placed on his back. He can flip back on his back too, if he has something to push off of. Nowadays we'll find him in the complete opposite position that we've placed him in. He also likes sleeping up on his knees a lot (I seem to remember my sister doing this a lot when she was little?). He loves to play on the floor in his little play area in the salon and can push himself backwards and turn himself 360 degrees. In the last couple of days he's started pushing himself up on his knees, so I think it's going to be any minute now that he starts moving forward!

Another funny thing we've discovered is that he doesn't care for fruits that have been prepared in a jar but he loves fresh fruit. So far he likes banana, melon and a little applesauce, but that's about all we've been able to try before he got sick. He can't stand having lunch in his Bumbo seat anymore, and until we get his high chair next week he's been having lunch in his bouncy seat, so I've decided to hold off on giving him fruit in the food strainer because it is super messy (and surfaces that can be wiped down are preferred!).

I think that's all the interesting things to report. It looks like the days of putting Fry down in one place and expecting him to still be there if I turn away are nearly over - I think this job is about to get much more interesting!

Monday, May 04, 2009

Things we were supposed to do on spring break but couldn't

  • A weekend in the Loire Valley (a holdover from Winter Break, which is when my father in law died)
  • The first BBQ of the year with our online gamer buddies
  • Celebrate Stéph's friend's 50th birthday
  • Take Fry to the public swimming pool for the first time
  • Take down the doors in the shower stall and scrub them down (don't worry Mrs B, that will still get done before you come!)
Things that did get done:

  • Fry's first visit to Paris (which is probably where he picked up the stomach bug)
  • Lowered Fry's crib to the next position as he was starting to hook his foot on a bar and grab the bed barrier, pulling his head up over the side of the crib which gave me a heart attack
Fry turned six months old this weekend and I'm going to do a post about it, but I've caught his stomach bug, so um... I've gotta go.

Monday, April 27, 2009

still in the thick of it

Ok, I'm gonna try to get in an update of this last week while everyone's asleep. I think you'll understand the need of quickness by the time you get to the end of this post.

So last week, Fry got over his little gastro by the next day and I caught Stéph's crud. So much for Mommy not getting sick! I was upset because I was afraid it would mean canceling our outing on Thursday, which I was so looking forward to, but the Actifed Jour & Nuit seemed to be doing its job so off we went.

Fry and I took an early morning train to Paris where we spent a few hours at Aimee's. She suggested her place so Fry could keep to his eating and napping schedule. Everything went perfectly that day. Fry was great on the train, a little fussy on the metro but it was getting close to lunch time, ate his lunch like a champion and slept for two and a half hours in Aimee's magical back room, never made a peep in the metro on the way out and slept most of the way home on the train. He charmed everyone he came in contact with and I gained a ton of confidence in taking Fry out like that. We had a magical day.

Unfortunately, it seems Fry picked up something during his big day out. He didn't seem like himself all day Friday and it culminated with a screaming fest we haven't seen the likes of for months and months at bedtime. After two hours, he threw up (for the first time), finally calmed down and went to sleep.

Saturday was more of the same. As the day went on, it seemed like the gastro was back along with a fever, but he went down a little easier. But no, around midnight he was back up with diarrhea and he looked deathly pale. Luckily, vomiting brought his color back. Um... You know what I mean. He got us up again around 4am with a fever of nearly 40 (104 F) which sent Stéph for the phone. He called 15 (the SAMU or medical emergency line) and they told us we didn't need to head to the hospital unless we couldn't get his fever down and to call back at 8am to find out who the médecin de garde would be, because that's right, Fry chose a Sunday morning for (what is hopefully) the peak of his illness.

Bright and early Stéph had 15 back on the phone and it turns out that Dr A was the médecin de garde and the pharmacie de garde was also in Tiny Town - what luck! (On Sundays there is always one pharmacy open in major towns or in a "sector" or group of small towns, like where we live, only for prescriptions. The list is posted on the door of all pharmacies on Sundays.) Dr A confirmed Fry's big nasty gastro but also thinks his spleen is swollen, which he says has nothing to do with the gastro. We're going to have to make an appointment for a sonogram for that today. In the meantime, I picked up the medicine and Stéph took Fry home.

Now, I don't know what they give babies in the States for the stomach flu, but here they take babies completely off milk and give them a substitute that helps keep them hydrated and doesn't aggravate the diarrhea, which apparently milk does. Sometimes it's soy milk but this time Fry's got some kind of medical milk substitute that has carrot powder in it. In any case, he doesn't like it much. We are really fighting to get some kind of liquid - any kind of liquid - down his throat. We tried water or his medical milk about every half hour and no dice. The only thing he wants is his regular milk. We got so desperate Stéph actually called 15 back, and they were lovely. They confirmed that we should be ready to try everything before resorting to his milk, even sugar water.

The worst, though, was his fever, that spiked at 40.5 (105 F) when we got home from the doctor. That was completely scary and I hope I never see my baby like that again! We were ready to pack up everything and head to the hospital if it didn't come down in the following 45 minutes, but happily the Advil kicked in. The fever yo-yoed all day but never broke.

All of a sudden this crud I have, that never really went away, got worse yesterday so I wasn't much good last night. Fry got up twice, I think, and eventually did drink a bit of sugar water. Things seem to be improving in the diarrhea area. Now we just need to get him to drink a bit more today and I think we'll be alright. I've got to see Dr H today because that makes a week I've had this head cold, and my go-to OTC drugs aren't touching it. I may take Fry with me and ask Dr H to weigh him, as Stéph and I are both concerned about his not drinking.

So that's where we're at. It's heartbreaking to see your kid so sick but I know it's gonna be fine. I even told Stéph last night that this is just the first of many times he'll be sick. I just hope we'll get a break from illness in this house for a good little while!

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Drafts that kill

One of those charming cultural differences that cracks me up every time it comes up is the French's absolute fear of a draft, or courants d'air. You may not be aware of this, but the slightest draft of air in your home could mean EXCRUCIATING, HORRIBLE DEATH to you and your loved ones!

Well, I've got news for the French: it gets damned hot here in the summer in the Land That Air Conditioning Forgot, so you'd better believe there are quite a few courants d'air in my home when the weather is warm enough. In fact, I try to get as many courants d'air going as I possibly can!

The even funnier thing is that a bit of wind is just fine, but bring that wind indoors and it suddenly becomes THE HARBINGER OF DOOM.

Case in point: last week, Fry and I were having our morning walk and we stopped into the boulangerie on the way home. As usual, I took Fry out of the stroller and we went inside. It was a bit windy outside but it has warmed up considerably, so the boulangerie's door was open and they were enjoying their own breeze. Now, I love the woman that runs the shop, she's about my age and she seems quite nice, but as soon as she saw me with Fry on my hip, she raced around the counter to shut the door so he wouldn't be affected by the courants d'air and end up deathly ill.

So basically we came in from the wind for a transaction that takes 30 seconds (we were the only ones there) and it took her longer to go around and shut the door than it would have to actually buy the baguette and leave.

Silly Frenchies. Ah well, her heart's in the right place.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

in which everyone gets sick

except me. It's hell being the Mommy, innit?

Anyway. Stéph started his spring break yesterday with a fantastic head cold. He's steadily working his way through a box of Actifed Jour & Nuit. Fry is currently suffering from the gastro. I thought he'd had it before, but no. Three glorious messes greeted me on the changing table before noon today. He's only had a very low fever in the afternoon of the last couple of days but the increase in glorious messes today has got me a little worried. We're monitoring the situation and just trying to keep him hydrated.

So, two weeks of spring break and not starting off on a good foot! I'm hoping Fry is better before Thursday, because we are scheduled to go off on some adventures, just the two of us! In preparation of our adventures, I bought a very lightweight stroller yesterday. Obviously we already had a stroller, and I love that thing. It is one of the items that Doc unloaded on us graciously handed down to us and that thing is the Road Warrior of strollers. I can take that bad boy anywhere. Except, perhaps, many shopping districts or mass transportation. Hence the need for lighter fare.

Once again we were saved by the fact that we live so close to the biggest outlet shopping mecca in northern France. I got my hands on a stroller that weighs less than ten pounds, has its own carrying handle and even comes with its own backpack. After a little practice today, I don't think I'll have any problems opening it and closing it with one hand. Best of all, I got it for about 30€ less than retail. Woo!

So, the Road Warrior will still get plenty of use since Fry and I take so many walks around Tiny Town. Still, the lightweight one is going to make going on adventures - especially when we go to the States this summer! - so much easier!

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

cross that one off the list

Last week I did something else I swore I'd never do: I bought sunglasses for Fry. I just kept thinking what a ridiculous waste it was. I never wore sunglasses as a baby, and I haven't gone blind or anything! Well, ok, that's not true, I did wear them at least once:

ahead of my time
Totally ahead of my time.
Now get off my lawn!


But in the last few weeks, we've been having a lot of sun (that tells you a lot about the winter weather in northeastern France - up until a few weeks ago we hadn't seen the sun since Fry was born!) and I noticed that on our walks, Fry would suddenly jerk every time his face hit full sun. I was instantly reminded of being a small child and feeling like a thousand daggers were stabbing my blue eyes whenever I got a bit of sun in them. Of course, Fry has his Papa's blue-grey eyes and I know all too well how he feels.

So I did it, and now he's got the teeniest tiniest pair of sunglasses you ever did see with a UV rating. The best part is that he doesn't do the jerk when the sun hits his face. Now he's just got to learn to not take the glasses off when we hit a shadowy patch and chew on them or else he's going to get the daggers again!

Friday, April 10, 2009

reality check

Last weekend, a close friend of Stéph's and his partner welcomed a little girl into the world. The problem is that she arrived much too early - she was at 28 weeks and three days. All this week I've been doing what anyone with a few extra bits of yarn would do: making preemie hats. They're being sent off in the mail today.

All this week I've been giving Fry extra cuddles. Stéph and I are reminded again and again how lucky we are. The problems I had after Fry's birth pale in comparison to what our friends are going through now. I tend to be a detail freak and worry myself to death over unimportant things, and this has been a reminder that I need to let those things go. So what if Fry's gone off the charts for his weight, that's going to sort itself out when he starts moving on his own. Even when he's been fussy because he's teething and I have to say it through gritted teeth, my mantra all week has been "we're so lucky we're so lucky we're so lucky."

Our friend said in an email that every day is a victory. This week I'm remembering that every day is a gift.

Thursday, April 02, 2009

five months

It's going by so fast! I can hardly believe it, Fry is five months old today.

A couple of changes to take note of... Of course the biggest change is that he's having a little bit of veggies now everyday at lunch time after his bottle. We've tried carrots, green beans, potatoes & leeks, but his favorite by far was peas just today. He's now drinking 240 ml (8 oz) of milk for breakfast, 250 ml of "veggie milk" (a prepared concoction of 200 ml of milk and "two spoonfuls" of either pumpkin or carrot and fortified with cereal) plus veggies for lunch (I would guess he's having about 20 or 30 ml), 240 ml of milk for snack and 250 ml of veggie milk for dinner. Since we decreased from five bottles a day to four, he's allowed to have a compliment of 30 ml of milk if he wants it, but he hasn't really wanted it for the last couple of weeks so I think we've found a new balance with the addition of the vegetables.

The other big change is that he suddenly prefers to sit up as much as possible. I have no doubt that this is in large part because of the Bumbo seat. He fits in it much more comfortably now and is content to sit in it while eating his veggies and just today we played on the floor for a bit in it. Even in his bouncy seat he tries to sit up as much as he can, which is especially helpful for trying to get a hold of his feet.

He can now roll over on his tummy, though he's only managed in situations where he's slightly propped up with a flat pillow or on a bed. We played on the floor for the first time today (we're going to have to get some baby tiles quick as we only have hard tile floors but today I threw a couple of blankets on the floor) and he didn't quite manage to turn all the way but he had fun trying! I suspect he's got another tooth pushing through since he's been fussy these last few days, the saliva factory is back in business and he's finding a lot more comfort in chewing on his harder toys.

Fry had his first head cold this month (or it may have been allergies like me) but he smiled right through the snot, just like everything else. We found some success with - get this - eucalyptus suppositories! At least his butt was minty fresh. But they did work! It also seems that he's outgrown his sleep sacks, as he's kicked himself out of them so much that he ended up being cold and crying at 3am for about a week. Too bad it took us a week to figure out what was wrong with him! Last night I finally got the bright idea to put him in the sort of sleep sack that snaps at the top and though he woke up a couple of times in the night, he got himself back to sleep like a champ. Whew!

As usual, Fry will have his five month check up next week, so I'll update the rest then.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

possibly my favorite photoshop ever

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Just saw this on Fark, sorry I don't know who to attribute it to, but I think it's brilliant!

Not much else to report. Fry has been sick this week. He's got a little bit of a stuffy nose and a cough and I don't think he's slept this much since he was a newborn. Since he didn't have a fever we went to playgroup yesterday anyway with the thinking that it would be too bad to miss a week (we're still trying to get him used to the place). Unfortunately he cried the whole time and the ladies couldn't calm him down so we left after half an hour. At least he was smiling when we left! (I just hope he wasn't smiling because we were leaving!!)

We also went to a bourse aux vêtements this morning. Held in the salle des fêtes at the next town over, they had quite a lot of gently used clothes for babies up to teenagers plus toys and strollers, etc. For 50€ I got about ten onesies, five or six shirts, a jacket, a sweater, a few pairs of pants, a pair of overalls and three pajama sets, all in excellent condition. I'm really pleased with what we got and we only need to complete Fry's summer wardrobe with some socks, a few more t-shirts and onesies. Woohoo!

Sunday, March 22, 2009

update: he likes it, hey mikey!

gosh.

think he likes it

I gave him his usual 250 ml of veggie milk and he was still hungry (growing spurt, anyone?) so I offered him a bit of baby food. This is the same jar he got yesterday, but honestly you couldn't see a dent in it before.

So now I'm thinking maybe in a week or two I'll decrease the amount of milk he gets to see if he'll eat more veggies. Thanks so much for your advice yesterday!

Saturday, March 21, 2009

figuring out food and other foibles

I'm really happy to report that our first visit to the halte garderie yesterday went way better than expected! Fry had a nice long nap before we went and was raring to go once we got there. At first, he got a little upset with being in a new place with new people, but he quickly settled down in the lap of one of the caregivers and played there for an incredible thirty minutes! He charmed the ladies with his smile, played with different toys and darn near turned over by himself during a little tummy time! Right about the time he should have had his bottle he started to get cranky again. I asked the ladies if they wanted to try to give him a bottle, because honestly my mother-in-law hasn't even succeeded in this area yet, but it was no dice. Luckily we're only ten minutes away from home on foot so he had no problem waiting until we got home to drink his milk, but everyone - including me! - was impressed at how well he did on his first day.

Also, it's been two weeks since we tried solids so we gave it another go this morning with a pot of green beans. He did much, much better this time, even opening his mouth when he saw the spoon coming and taking a few gulps of water after about three spoonfuls. After about a dozen spoonfuls, however, he'd had enough and wanted his usual veggie milk. He didn't make much of a dent in the pot but I suppose it's a beginning.

So from what the doctor said at our last visit, apparently he'll slowly start eating more veggies and drinking less milk at lunch time. I'm curious to know, you moms out there, is that your experience? I talked to MIL about eating solids the other day and she basically said, "Yeah, you gotta force them," which made me go !!!! Anyway, advice and suggestions are much appreciated.

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

mystery solved

I've been sick for a week now and though I'm finally feeling a little better, it's been a mystery as to why neither Fry nor Stéph have caught my disease. Stéph finally figured it out - he heard at work yesterday that we had a really bad pollen explosion last weekend and I'm certainly having an allergy attack.

Now, if you knew me in my previous life, you're probably thinking, "well, duh." It's true that I had an incredible allergy problem when I lived in Greenville, and no wonder, since it was ranked the 13th US Allergy Capital the year before I moved here. It sounds hard to believe, but my allergies were so bad that I had to take allergy medication every day and if I didn't, I had the beginnings of a sinus infection that evening. For real.

I was so used to being sick all the time that when my cache of allergy meds ran out a few months after moving here, I panicked. I was still sick a lot that first year, no doubt thanks to Stéph bringing every new virus under the sun home to me from school, but then I woke up one day and realized my allergy nightmare was over.

Now it's been three years since I've been off the meds and oh, how quickly we forget. The first signs of Spring, the warmer weather, the sun coming out, of course it's allergies! So I'll be stopping in to the pharmacy today, but this time for allergy meds instead of more cold medicine.

Friday, March 13, 2009

a crazy afternoon

This day was so chock full of stuff, I don't know where to begin! First of all, I am getting over the worst cold in history. Well, it may not be that the cold is so bad, but Wednesday night I think I slept exactly two hours thanks to the return of Snorey McChainsaw, plus Fry had a little freak out at 4:00 in the morning and wouldn't settle back down so I ended up sleeping in his room for the rest of the night (morning?). So that set me back pretty bad, but I'm finally getting over it.

Anyway. This morning Fry and I ran a bunch of errands like stopping by the pharmacy, the Friday market and the butcher's, whom I love. Today she actually came out from behind the counter to coochey-coo Fry! So I was thinking that was our big outing for the day, especially with the crap weather coming through, but oh no! Stéph came home at lunch with a newspaper clipping about - get this - an itinerant halte garderie that is coming to Tiny Town! (You can read about us trying to get Fry into a halte garderie in Troyes in this post.) Every Friday afternoon, they set up in a large room in the old school and can handle up to 15 kids at a time. This afternoon they had a welcome session where you could come with your kids and check out the set up and get the information for signing up.

The only problem was that I didn't know exactly where the old school was. I didn't get very good directions, so after looping around the same block three times, I took a break and popped into the photographer's shop to get Fry's passport photos done. He was a real trooper and actually smiled at one point and we had to wait until he got serious again to take the picture!

So I ran back home and jumped on the computer and figured out where it was supposed to be (so frustrating, the directions I had were this close!) and we ran out again to try to find the place. I was so anxious I would miss the whole thing that when we did arrive, I was all red in the face!

So, long story short, I needn't have worried about getting a place since only one other child had been there before us and three toddlers came as we were leaving, it is incredibly inexpensive (it should work out to less than 5€ a month for us), Fry will get to meet other kids his age, get used to being around other people, and I will have three hours a week all to myself! Woohoo!

So, we have a new dossier to fill out and a meeting next Wednesday to do all the official child care stuff, and then we can start going on Friday afternoons together until he's comfortable enough to stay on his own. Now I just have to call the service in Troyes to cancel our meeting there, because I don't think we'll use that service now. I'm so excited and relieved that this great program has come to Tiny Town! All we've wanted was a program that helps Fry socialize with others for a few hours a week, and it fell in our laps!

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

odds and ends

First of all, thank you all so much for your kind comments on the passing of my father-in-law. I'd intended to write a post on its own about his funeral but to be honest I'll still just burnt out on funerals and death. His memorial was nice and short, just as he would have wanted, but still quite touching. It was also very well attended and standing room only, a testament to his ability to make friends anywhere.

This past Saturday we headed East to party down with Doc and some other party people and a lovely time was had by all. Fry was jealous of all the party-making and couldn't settle down to sleep, so we headed home at 10pm. About halfway home we were "controlled" by the gendarmes in a village that boasts the only nightclub in the countryside, or so it seems. Anyway, we weren't exactly their target for the evening though Stéph still had to blow in a bag. The color changed just a twinge but the gendarme brushed it off with a "we're just gonna call that humidity" and sent us on our way. We are hardly big drinkers, especially when we know we've got a long drive home ahead of us, but still we're glad that Stéph switched to coke when he did! In any case, a great time was had and if you ever wondered, Doc makes some freaking killer chicken wings!!!

Winter break ended this weekend and Stéph headed back to school yesterday. Obviously it was a pretty crap vacation for Stéph but we're hoping to make up for it with a little family weekend away over the next break at the end of April. Fry has been going through Papa withdrawl and constantly checks out Stéph's blank computer screen and empty chair.

Speaking of Fry, we did try a little solid food this weekend. We started with carrot, since he's familiar with the taste from his carrot milk, and he did take a few spoonfuls before putting his little fist down. Sunday he took a bit more, maybe about 10 ml?, but was super fussy, couldn't relax and hardly ate for the rest of the day. Yesterday he was too cranky to sit in the seat long enough for more than one or two spoonfuls and was still super fussy, though he made up for eating less the day before by drinking every single drop of his bottles, so we've decided to wait another week. Part of the problem is that if he doesn't get a good morning nap, he can't be bothered to sit up in his bumbo chair long enough to eat from a spoon. If I can't get him rested around noon to try again, I may just push his "lunch" to the afternoon when he's in a better mood. We'll see what happens next week...

Well, that's all the news that's fit to be news. Also, it looks like Spring is trying to break through - it will be so nice to take Fry out in warmer weather!

Friday, March 06, 2009

Fry's weigh in and other items only interesting to Mommy

So Fry had his four month appointment this morning and in a surprise to exactly no one, he's still at the top of his weight class his age group in height and weight. Today he was eight kilos (17.6 pounds) and 64 cm (25.2 inches). At this rate, he will most likely transition to 9/12 month clothes by the end of the month, as six month clothes top out at 67 cm!

Fry did great once again getting his vaccinations and only cried an extra thirty seconds compared to the first time. However, he's been a lot more fussy and has had trouble napping all day, though no fever yet. I think the combination of the vaccinations and teething are the culprit and hopefully a full night's sleep will cure what ails him.

So the doctor has recommended starting Fry on veggies and after doing a little bit of research about starting solids so early, I'm ready to try. According to this article, he's showing at least four signs of being ready, including doubling his birth weight (and how!) and being able to sit up well when supported. There's a great product here that has a combination of milk and carrots or pumpkin and he's had no problems with those this week. Anyway, we won't force him if he's not ready, but we'll be trying out a little carrot tomorrow.

In other news, I'm very sad to report that my pinto bean connection has disappeared! She was there a couple of weeks ago, but Fry and I ran some errands yesterday in Troyes and stopped by Les Halles and the lady and my delicious, delicious pinto beans were gone!

I am only consoled by the reason Fry and I went to Troyes yesterday - to pay for our flight to visit North Carolina in August!! We've got our tickets in our hot little hands and now I just have to wait four long months. I guess packing our bags now would be a little premature...

Tuesday, March 03, 2009

speaking of babies...

If we wanted Fry to have a sibling with the same age difference and my sister and I, we'd have to get pregnant this month.

AHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA- *gasp* -AHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHHA!

no.

My parents did have their reasons, though. My mother, an only child, had read that siblings close in age tend to be very close growing up, so this is why she and my father, the oldest of four (plus two half-brothers that are 20+ years younger, which has no bearing on this story but I feel awkward not mentioning them for some reason) planned to get pregnant ASAP. Consequently, my sister and I are 13 months apart in age.

Now, this may work for some siblings, but it didn't work for us. I'm glad to report that my sister and I get along like gangbusters today, but not so much when we were kids.

So yeah, maybe when Fry's 13 months old we'll start talking siblings, but until then...

Monday, March 02, 2009

four months

Time sure flies when you're having fun... Fry is four months old today!

I think I took a grand total of five pictures of Fry this month. A couple of weeks ago I was absolutely sure that he was having digestion problems and that we needed to change his milk. Turns out, after some friendly advice and an excellent book recommendation, we figured out that Fry was simply fussy because he was overtired! Now we've settled into a routine of an hour's nap in the morning, a two hour nap in the afternoon and a short nap in the evening. Combined with going to bed around 8pm and waking up around 7am and playing in his bed for about half an hour, he seems to be much better rested and much, much happier! Plus the fact that if he does wake up, nine times out of ten he'll soothe himself back to sleep, which makes Stéph and I much, much happier!

The other amazing development is that Fry's first tooth is coming in already! Since it wasn't one of the center teeth, we didn't notice it at first. It was my MIL that actually felt the bump before anyone else! It's coming in on the bottom left side, maybe an incisor?

Of course this means everything goes in the mouth now! Mommy and Papa's fingers, both of his thumbs at the same time, and everything else in his reach. He doesn't really like the refrigerated teething ring or chewing on cold washcloths yet, though. Once every couple of days, teething seems to bother him more than usual, so we give him some homeopathic medicine to help fight the pain, which does the trick!

Fry seems to be forming a special attachment to his blue blanket and still loves his Sophie and froggie rattle. He is also becoming more interested in his other toys, including a folding rattle, a stuffed cow wearing a carrot scarf and overalls we call Madame La Vache, and another doudou from America which is a teddy bear/soft blankie combination.

He spends a lot of time in his transat during the day, but we're trying to encourage playing and moving around on his own in the pack n play we've set up downstairs as a sort of play pen. We try to get some tummy time in everyday, and I can see that he's starting to get frustrated about not being able to move, so I wonder if we'll see some progress in this area this month! He also likes his bumbo, but only for a few minutes at a time. Plus the cloth diapers make it a tight fit! His favorite place in the whole world is still his changing table!

His next doctor's appointment will be the end of this week or the beginning of the next, so I'll have more updates then.

Thursday, February 26, 2009

In Memoriam

My father-in-law has been sick for as long as I've known him. It wasn't much of a shock when he was diagnosed with lung cancer a couple of years ago, but he fought it rather well, still managing to meet up with his friends and going on his yearly vacation to Pas-de-Calais, where he and my mother-in-law grew up. But he started slowing down around the time we went on vacation together in August. He was so poorly that it was a special effort for him to come visit me and Fry, his ninth grandchild, in the maternity. He only stayed for about ten minutes, but it touched me greatly.

At the end, it was fast. Mercifully fast. Last Thursday he was still moving around the house on his own and I saw him sitting in his favorite chair in front of the tv. When I was having my colonoscopy Monday, Stéph and Fry visited Pépère for what turned out to be the last time. He wasn't able to get out of bed, but Stéph told me that he would still reach out to touch the baby. He was scheduled to go back into the hospital for two days starting Wednesday morning, but if you ask me, he'd just had enough. We got the call at 1:30 Wednesday morning that he was gone.

I will never forget how he welcomed this foreigner into his family with good humor and kindness. But mostly good humor. He called me "Camembert" for the first year, because it was the only cheese I would eat (seriously, that cheese was a revelation to me!). He teased me when I showed him my very first récipissé by taking out his cigarette lighter and threatening to light it up, with a twinkle in his eye. His sarcastic comebacks were legendary and to watch Stéph's parents go at it was both heart warming and hilarious.

Merci, beau-père, pour tous.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

a comparison

I wasn't going to write about this, but when you have an opportunity to write about butt cancer, you ought not to pass it up.

No no, don't worry, I haven't got butt cancer, or cancer of the colon, as it is more commonly known, but my Grandmother did (and beat it!), her uncle died from it, my father had pre-cancerous polyps, my sister had juvenile polyps and I have had them as well. That means I've had a colonoscopy before, and will have to have them every five years for the rest of my life. Yesterday I had my second colonoscopy, and since I've now had this procedure done in two countries, here, as a public service to my readers, is a comparison of what to expect when undergoing a colonoscopy in America and France.

Special Diet
America: no solid foods and only clear liquids for two days before the procedure. I subsisted on Gatorade and clear jello.
France: restricted diet with no fiber for three days before the procedure. I had coffee and biscuits with jelly for breakfast, meat and starch for lunch and dinner, and chocolate for dessert.

Advantage: France

Medication
Sorry, there's no nice way to say it, but the colon must be cleansed before the procedure. This is done by force-evacuating everything you've eating for the last ten years of your life...
America: The two evenings before the procedure, a small bottle of liquid is added to a glass of a clear drink (7-up was highly recommended). Pretty nasty but doable.
France: The night before the procedure and the morning of the procedure, a powdered medicine is added to two liters of water, which must be drunk in two hours. It was recommended to keep the water very cold but this didn't stop it from tasting like ass-flavored sea water. Then I ran up and down the stairs all evening/morning. I could have added lemon juice, but I figured it would have just tasted like lemony-ass-flavored sea water, so I didn't bother.

Advantage: America

The Procedure
America: Performed in an examination room at a clinic. I wasn't completely knocked out, but was in what is commonly called "twilight" - I could have forced myself to stay awake and even watch the procedure if I wanted, but I have better sense than that and slept through the whole thing.
France: Performed in an operating room. Actually checked into a room at the same clinic where Fry was born, hung out in the room (and did a bit of knitting, actually) before I was wheeled into the operating room, where I was given a shot intravenously which knocked me out cold and my vitals where constantly watched by an anesthesiologist during the procedure. I felt a lot safer knowing I was already in an operating room in case anything went wrong, even though it only very rarely does with this kind of procedure.

Advantage: France

The Recovery
America: Woke up in a large room filled with beds with only sheets to divide them. Here is another embarrassing fact about a colonoscopy - you will experience epic farting afterwards! You'll have to bring someone with you because you won't be able to drive, so make sure that person is someone very, very close. Very close. Was released under my friend's care, and we went to IHOP before I crashed on her couch for the rest of the afternoon.
France: Woke up in the operating room, was transferred to a rolling bed and wheeled into the recovery room. Was given oxygen and my vitals were monitored until I was totally awake. Wheeled back to my room, where luckily I had the room to myself so I could fart in peace. Was offered a choice of coffee, tea or hot chocolate and given a little snack and rested for a couple of hours. The doctor passed by my room and told me all was well and to come back again in five years, the needle was removed from my arm, and I was released under my husband's care while Fry charmed everyone he came in contact with. We went home and I made chicken wraps for dinner.

Advantage: France

Well, I have to admit, it looks like France wins out, but considering how nasty that liquid ass is, I think I'm going to have to call a tie!

And finally, in case you're wondering whether you shouldn't run right out and have your own colonoscopy done, most people don't need to start screenings until they're fifty years old. However, if someone in your immediate family has ever had polyps or cancer, your risk is much higher. I was thirty when I had my first colonoscopy, and I had two polyps. Luckily I didn't have any this time around, but I won't take any chances and will go through the whole rigamarole again in five years. I'll let you know if they make any improvements on the ass flavored cleansing products...

Monday, February 16, 2009

baby juggling

I have an appointment tomorrow morning in Troyes, and we have had plans for two weeks to have Fry stay with Mémère and Pépère while I see the doctor. Unfortunately, my father-in-law is very sick, so Fry's staying there right now is kind of difficult for my mother-in-law, who is already up to her eyeballs in taking care of her ill husband. I know she felt terrible calling us last night to ask if we could find other accommodations and I felt terrible that she could think we'd be upset with her! Bless her heart, I think she's having a very difficult time adjusting to her husband's decline in health.

In any case, she suggested we call the halte garderie in the same street. Stéphane got very excited about this - here was an option we hadn't even thought of before!

In France, there are several options for child care: la crèche, les nounous, et la halte garderie (or is it l'halte garderie?). La crèche is traditional day care, but as spaces are very limited in this option, the children of two working parents take precedence (as it should be!) so we have crossed this one off the list. A nounou is usually a woman that takes a handful of children into her care, as sort of a private daycare. Finally, the halte garderie is more of an occasional option for those that need a quick solution for baby sitting for a few hours during the day.

From what I understand (from reading a little bit of information on Troyes' website), the crèche and the halte garderie have now been combined under a single heading called "petite enfance," which is for children aged two years and under. (Many children can start school at the Maternelle between two and three years old, which is basically a state-run pre-school.)

So, armed with this little bit of information, I called the maison de petite enfance located in the same street as my appointment. I explained that I didn't know how the system worked and the woman kindly gave me the number for the service de petite enfance so we could sign up. I called that number and asked if we could sign up if we didn't live in Troyes. Since I don't work and we don't live in Troyes, we don't qualify for a crèche, but we can sign up for an accueil d'occasion, which, loosely translated, is "occasional welcome." This means I would be able to leave Fry in a state sponsored day care for a few hours during the day *if* they have an opening (I'm not sure if you can reserve in advance or if it's first come, first served).

Obviously, this isn't going to work for tomorrow morning, but I did take an appointment to sign us up for the service, which will be next month, and we'll have to go with a list of documents as long as your arm, but that's what you'd expect for child care, I suppose. I do happen to know where the accueil d'occasion is, right in the middle of downtown Troyes, with a parking garage just below it, so that's nice. I'll find out more about how that works next month.

In the meantime, I didn't give a second thought about taking Fry with me tomorrow morning, but then I realized that I've never been to this doctor's office before and I have no idea if I'll be able to get his giant country stroller in the door, let alone if they have room. I was thinking specifically of the eye doctor I saw, who's office was located on the second floor of an 18th century house - not easy to maneuver a huge stroller! So I called and asked, ready to change my appointment, but the secretary was very sweet and told me to bring him along. Man, it's amazing how much planning ahead is required now that we have this tiny presence in our lives!

P.S. If you're reading this in a reader, you may wanna stop by the blog - I've been futzing with the template again!

Friday, February 13, 2009

heh.

Remember when I said nothing was going on? I just updated my template (finally) and lost about everything that was in my sidebars. So that's nice. Ah well, I was looking for something to do this afternoon, anyway. I also decided to let the Haloscan comments go. That means my comments are starting from zero but as long as the Haloscan website is around, I can still read the comments my Mom left the first few months I blogged (which was the only reason I never switched back anyway).

So how many people remember that this was my very first template four and a half years ago?

Update: You should be able to subscribe Dispatches From France in your favorite reader now! Hurrah!!

ho hum

Hi there. Not much going on, I'm afraid to report.

I've been a little concerned this week that Fry's fussiness has been more than just colic, so I finally went to see the sage femme this morning. She calmed a lot of my fears and gave me a few suggestions, some I'll take (going to the pharmacy this afternoon to see if they having anything with fennel I can add to water for Fry between bottles) and some I won't (I just can't get into taking Fry to the chiropractor, sorry). I can't wait until the weather is better so we can start taking him outside more. I can't help but think he's got cabin fever as bad as I do...

Yesterday I booked a hotel for two nights and I can't wait to go on our first family vacation! It's going to be the weekend that Fry turns four months old. We're going somewhere I haven't been before and we're in for plenty of sightseeing.

That's pretty much all the news going on around here. I haven't even really been knitting very much. I think the winter blahs finally got me. I can't believe I'm going to say this, but roll on Spring!

Friday, February 06, 2009

Fry's three month checkup

We're just home from Fry's three month checkup and I'm going to write this quickly while he's still knocked out in his stroller. Fry is now measuring in at 62 cm (24.4 inches) and a whopping 7.2 kilos (that's 15.9 pounds!)! That's a whole kilo, or 2.2 pounds, in one month! The doctor suggested that I'm feeding him too much, so I sincerely asked him how I'm supposed to feed him less. He admitted that there isn't much we can do, but if he gains as much again this month, we may go ahead and start him on veggies next month.

He also had his first vaccinations today and he was a champion!! For the first one, he barely batted an eye, but the second one was the more painful one but he only cried for a minute! The doctor did warn me that next month will be worse, though.

The bad news is that it looks like he's got his first gastro. He's been super fussy for a few days now, not able to rest during the day, and today he woke us up at 6:30 with, shall we say, an uncomfortable bum. He's wearing disposibles until his butt is in a happier place and he's got special food to eat until he seems to be back to normal and we can go back to his regular food.

Whoops, looks like my giant gourmand of a baby is waking up... you kids have a great weekend!

Wednesday, February 04, 2009

Stuff you should be reading

I've been wanting to do this post for ever now, but then I thought, "Oh, I should update my sidebars first" and who has time to do that? Ugh. But hey, I'm glad to do a post that has nothing to do about Fry (I'm turning into a Mommy blogger whether I want to or not) and tell you about some cool websites at the same time!

First up is Chick scientist, who will soon be Dr. Chick scientist. She's funny, she's cool, and she just happens to be my cousin. My second cousin, thankyouverymuch. (By the way, if you think that's impressive, Fry will hopefully meet a couple of his third cousins this summer!) Lili has just written a "25 things about me" sort of post so it's the perfect time to get to know her, and tell her Vivi sent ya!

The next one is Stuff Parisians Like. The title pretty much speaks for itself and I think it is HIGH-larious. Especially since I'm NOT a Parisian (though I know a lot of the Stuff mentioned happens to be true!)!

Finally, I don't know if you know how much I love history. Sometimes I seriously wish I'd majored in it in college. I also really love webcomics. Now, Kate Beaton has figured out that these two great tastes taste great together. I ate up all her archives in like an hour and I check her site everyday for updates. Plus, sometimes she draws on a subject I don't know much about so I google it, and then I learn something. Bonus!

Ok, so that's my linkies. I also want to tell you that I've just joined the A Day In Your Life group on flickr and I'm going to try to do that tomorrow. It should be quite a challenge since I won't be able to post pictures of our faces (because my husband would kill me). I'll try to update throughout the day, so keep an eye on that.

Right, that's it. Fry's going to get his first vaccinations Friday afternoon so I'll be sure to come back and tell you all about it (dang it, I couldn't resist!).

Monday, February 02, 2009

3 months old!

Fry is three months old today! What a huge difference one month can make. Everything has changed! We've finally got to a point that I though we'd never reach: not only is Fry sleeping through the night (for twelve hours at a stretch!), but he's really on a schedule during the day, getting up at the same time and basically eating at the same times. He still sleeps between meals, but the naps can last anywhere from thirty minutes to two hours, so he's really teaching me to be flexible (something I've always had trouble with!).

Fry is starting to really be interested in the world around him. He knows Stéph and I on sight, and will either smile or wave his arms when he sees us - especially first thing in the morning! Unfortunately, he doesn't know his grandparents very well yet. I left him with Mémère and Pépère one afternoon to run some errands and he screamed for 45 minutes and wouldn't even eat! That was when we knew that things were really starting to change.

Toys are starting to hold his attention, too. Right now he likes to play with his Sophie giraffe and his froggie rattle (thanks again for that, Dana!). I think his favorite thing to play with is the ties on the diaper basket on his changing table! He also likes to watch me knit (poor me, right?) and, much to my dismay, Stéph play online. Our new toy is the webcam, so his Aunt Nini can see him and he can look at the little boy on the computer screen.

Overall, Fry is a happy, smiley boy and he teaches me something everyday. I hope he still likes me after his first vaccinations this week, though...

Thursday, January 29, 2009

comfort food

Tiny Town may feel like home, but I can hardly get everything my little heart desires here. In the four years and change I've been here now, I'm surprised by how many foreign foodstuffs have made it to our corner of France, even if I have to go to Troyes to find them. When I moved here, I asked the lady at the cheese counter in one of the grande surface stores if she had cheddar and she laughed and said I'd never find that here! It finally showed up in the other grande surface last year and you can guess who's getting my business! Ok, the other one is actually closer to Tiny Town, but I like to pretend I'm voting with my euros...

The point is, there are fewer and fewer things I pine for to the point that I'll ask someone in the States to send me something. Today I bought a nice big chunk (about a pound and a half) of cheddar, which I immediately shredded and put half in the freezer when I got home, and a couple of containers of fried onions, which aren't a perfect facsimile of French's fried onions, but I can still make a green bean casserole now and again (also thanks to the Campbell's condensed soups I bought at a grocery near Doc's house!). I was also very excited to find a source for dry pinto beans in Les Halles, an "open air" market (now enclosed) in Troyes, at a stall called Epicerie du monde. You can be sure that I'll be attempting to make some refried beans this weekend.

Of course the downside to all this (that is, if you're Stéph) is that I get to inflict my foreign tastes on my husband, who then tells me if he can be bothered to eat them again. Refried beans were not a big hit the first time around when they showed up at my door in cans, so I'll be making a nice lentil and sausage stew for Stéph, to eat while I eat my bean burritos. That suits me fine, since I'm not a fan of lentils and sausage anyway!

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

discovering Tiny Town

snow, baby

Every day that the weather is nice enough, Fry and I go on a walk. These walks are usually between thirty and forty-five minutes, and I try to take a different route every time. In this manner, I've discovered neighborhoods I didn't know existed.

Stéph and I have decided that we want to eventually buy a home here in Tiny Town, so these walks give me the opportunity to daydream about where I'd like to live and what kind of home I'd want to live in. Plus, that means that Tiny Town will be Fry's hometown, so I imagine us throwing around the baseball as I push the stroller through the park, or imagine taking him to school as I pass the maternelle. Rumors are flying around that a public swimming pool is going to be built here, so I try to figure out where it's going to go.

In addition to my nearly daily walks, Stéph and I are taking advantage of having specialty stores within walking distance, not to mention an excellent restaurant or two, so that means I'm on smiling-and-waving terms with the butcher, the owner of the Moroccan restaurant and the woman that runs the garden shop (though she's the exception - I've been there once and she still says hello to me!).

I have resisted liking this place for so long, dreaming that we would eventually return to a larger city. The truth is, Stéph is very happy where he's teaching now, and the difference between now and our first year of marriage, when he had to commute forty-five minutes and had migraines three nights a week, are legion. But ever since Fry arrived, something just clicked. At last, after three years, Tiny Town is finally starting to feel like home.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

The audacity of hope

Thanks to a live link on cnn.com, Fry and I were able to watch the Inauguration yesterday. Fry was incredible - he seemed to be focused on the screen and was calm and interested. He especially loved the music.

I couldn't help but get emotional when Barack Obama stepped forward to take the Oath of Office. As he finished, I pointed to the screen and said to my son with tears in my eyes, "That man is the President of the United States!"

That's when I realized that Fry had fallen asleep.

Oh well, at least he'll be able to say, someday, that he watched history being made, even if he doesn't remember it!

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

two months

Maaaaaaaan, I'm getting later and later with these....

So, we had Fry's two month checkup last week and it was Fry's first appointment with Dr. H (yep, we've successfully switched). This month he measured 59.5 cm (23.4 inches) and weighed in at a whopping 6.2 kilos (13.7 pounds)! Aside from dry skin, which is most likely because of the super dry and cold weather we've had lately, he's doing really well. Dr. H commented on his big feet, and I think his hands are going to be large too, thanks to his long fingers (which are now more pudgy than anything), but I don't necessarily think this means he'll be tall, as my Dad had enormous hands and large feet but was not exactly a giant.

We also had to order his first vaccinations, which we'll do next month. In France, the doctor gives you a prescription for the vaccinations, which you have to fill out at the pharmacy (and keep in the fridge!), and then take a dose with you to the doctor's office, where he'll do the injection. I can see the good and bad points for this method. Obviously it's a pain in the ass (ha ha!) for the patient to have to do the running around, but it also helps keep the doctor's costs down, as they don't have to stock a lot of medicines they may not always need. Case in point - Dr. H is a family doctor, not a pediatrician, so how many vaccinations do you reckon he does in a year? I'm guessing not a lot.

Anyway, French three-month clothes only go up to 60 cm (American ones are slightly larger, go figure) so I'm in the process of changing over his wardrobe. He's already been in six month onesies for about a week, thanks to the big ole butt his cloth diapers give him, but today it became obvious this his pajamas are really too small. It's so strange when I can remember that not so long ago he was swimming in the same pajamas! Tomorrow he'll start swimming in clothes again and I'll start packing up the old ones. *sigh*

Other than that, we're just rolling along. He's still eating more than is recommended by the formula folks and he's turning into a real butterball, but the doctor hasn't said anything about his weight and Stéph and I are keeping our worrying down to a dull roar. It's hard not to freak out when you hear about CHILD OBESITY all the damn time but you try telling a two month old that he can't have a bottle and good luck to you! Of course, according to the French clothing industry, my two month old is the size of a three month old, so I guess he's not doing so bad after all!

Friday, January 09, 2009

I told you she was hardcore

This week, French Minister of Justice (which is the equivalent to the American Attorney General) Rachida Dati came back from her maternity leave a little early. That's if you can call five days after the birth early.

Yes, let that sink in a minute - five days after the birth she was filmed walking through the courtyard of the Elysée in high heels and a form fitting black dress that showed that she has nearly gotten her figure back.

This is not the first time that Ms. Dati's pregnancy has made people talk. The 43 year old is not married and has not publicly acknowledged who the father of her daughter is. Now imagine Condoleeza Rice doing the same thing. You could make the argument that the French regard private lives to be just that, but you could certainly say she is pushing the envelope, even by French standards.

Now. My first reaction - no wait, my second reaction, because my first reaction required picking my jaw up off the floor - was that I felt an enormous amount of sympathy for her. I cannot begin to imagine the amount of political pressure the woman is under, especially since President Sarkozy has just announced some major changes to the French law system.

On the other hand, what message is this sending to women, French or otherwise? It's all very "passing off the baby to the nanny" super upper class, isn't it? Here I'm feeling guilty about being home with Fry after two months when most mothers back in the States would have been back to work by now (of course, I have no work to go back to but that's another story altogether). I am in no way suggesting that she should have quit her job, but in a world where the extremely high cost (and, especially in the France, the availability) of child care leaves many families trying to figure out if both parents working is even feasible, what kind of message is this sending?

I don't have the answers. As I said before, I'm sympathetic to her situation but I find it a bit shocking all the same. What do you think?

Tuesday, January 06, 2009

Bonne année & bonne santé !

Happy New Year and Good Health, as the French say! I can't believe we're nearly a week into 2009 already!

We rang in the New Year with a friend of ours. She's a pretty heavy smoker, and before we quit we used to smoke like demons together, but visiting her was a real eye-opener. I was hesitant to go because I didn't feel comfortable telling her that she couldn't smoke in her own home (because of Fry's presence, of course), but she insisted that she would smoke in the kitchen with the door closed and I felt like that was enough of a compromise. Well, she announced upon arrival that she hadn't smoked in the living room all day and it still smelled like the inside of an ash tray! It's so funny that when you're a smoker, you sincerely think you've made such a huge improvement in such a short amount of time! Both Stéph and I indulged in a cigarette or two, but to be honest I don't miss smoking at all, especially when we got home and simply everything reeked of smoke, from the diaper bag to Fry's clothes! I think we'll visit this friend again in summer, when it's warm enough to sit outside...

Stéph went back to work yesterday and I had my first day completely alone with Fry since he was only four weeks old. I was totally worn out by the time Stéph came home in the evening! We woke up to a nice layer of snow as well, which freaked me out because we really had to go to the store yesterday for some essentials. We survived the snowy drive to the store and back and I spent the rest of the day trying to get a little housework done and keeping Fry happy. I tried to take a nap in the afternoon but I just seem to have some kind of mental block about sleeping during the day! The whole time I feel like a lazy bastard while I think about all the things I could be doing. I finally took a nap in the evening, which I guess I'll have to keep doing as long as I have night duty. Stéph and I have worked out that I'll do all the night feedings when he has to work the next day, which actually works out really well for us, as long as I can catch a nap during the day! You can see my dilemma.

Finally, I just got a really nice letter in the mail. When we sent out our birth announcements (in France, the American ones are still on their way over the ocean I think), we included both the OB/GYN that I saw for the first half of my pregnancy and the one I saw for the second half after the first one had a debilitating accident. They share an office so it was no problem to address the announcement to both doctors. The letter I received this morning was from the first doctor who not only thanked us for the announcement, but he apologized for being unavailable for the end of the pregnancy and birth! I just think that was a really nice gesture. I've still been seeing the second doctor since Fry was born because his hours are a bit more convenient for us, but now I feel like I want to try to get in to see him just to say hello!

Speaking of doctors, I think I've finally convinced Stéph that it would be better for us to switch over to Dr. H as our primary doctor. I need to make an appointment for Fry's second month (already!!!) so I'll have to make that call this week.

I hope you all had a great New Year's! I don't know about you, but I have a very good feeling about 2009!

Monday, December 29, 2008

the baby pool

I very nearly forgot about this! I finally plugged in Fry's birth info and found out the winners. Stéph and I came in second and third, but the overall winner was Carol in CA! Congratulations, Carol! You've won the satisfaction of coming in first place. :)

I have to say, though, I was pretty impressed that Lisanne was only two hours off on the date and time! You can see how everyone did by clicking here.

Thursday, December 25, 2008

merry merry merry!

Hey, look at me blogging three times in the same week! Woohoo!

So, last night went fine, though I did forget to take an Actifed before we left, so I was pretty much sniffly and out of it most of the time. Fry wasn't too fussy but we couldn't get him to sleep in the other room, so we ended up keeping him with us all evening. No matter, since he was awake for nearly six hours last night, he gave us a lovely Christmas present - sleeping through the night last night! He was a big hit with his cousins, especially his two year old cousin, C. She kept wanting to hold his hand, which was very sweet.

The apéritifs went over great, mostly with the adults, and of course we came home with the one vegetable I'm not a huge fan of: broccoli. Maybe I'll make a big chicken and broccoli stir fry this weekend... Our apéritifs were followed by my MIL's specialty, coquilles St. Jacques, a seafood dish with mussels and scallops in a creme sauce, usually served in a half shell. The main course was turkey stuffed with walnuts and raisins, cannette, or duckling, veggies and a gratin dauphinois, which was followed by salad and cheese and polished off with some ice cream cakes. Believe it or not, I managed to have a little bit of everything without stuffing myself! Miracle of miracles...

This morning I had to run to the boulangerie for bread, since Stéph and I are making a fondue for dinner tonight. It may come as a surprise that some shops are open on Christmas day, at least until noon. This is because a well made baguette should only be fresh for one day before it's as hard as a rock, so of course we all need fresh bread on Christmas! I know the butcher was also open this morning, and of course the bar was doing a brisk business as well! At the boulangerie, I found these little cakes and had to indulge:

buchettes de noël

(Sorry for the poor quality of the photo: it's so hard to get nice pictures with my point and shoot during winter because it's so freaking dark all the time!)

So, the traditional dessert for Christmas is the bûche de noël. When I saw these individually sized "buchettes," I knew I had to get a couple for us!

Today, I'm still pretty sick but the cold medicine seems to be working so hopefully this will only last a couple of days (and Fry won't catch it!). I hope y'all got something better than a cold for Christmas!

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

merry merry!

O Christmas shrub

Man, did Christmas sneak up on me this year! Can't imagine why... Even so, we did manage to get a small Christmas tree (or, as I prefer to call it, the Christmas shrub), which does in fact have lights but I caught them at a bad blinking moment.

The presents are all wrapped and y'all, I cannot begin to tell you how happy I am that I convinced Stéph that we should buy some gifts when we were on vacation in August. There is no way we would have gotten anything done in the last few weeks, otherwise. In fact, there are a couple of presents we still need for family we won't see until New Year's Eve, so we drove to the big shopping district on our way home from the in-laws' yesterday. When we saw how bad the traffic was, we turned right around and went home (we'll hit it up the day after Christmas). Two crafty projects I wanted to give as gifts that didn't get completed before Fry was born are still unfinished. Luckily, no one is going un-gifted as I did get all the projects done for our nieces and nephew before Fry arrived.

Every year, we gather with Stéph's family on Christmas Eve and everyone takes care of one course. This year we're doing the apéritifs. We decided on nothing very complicated: sausage wrapped in pastry (pigs in a blanket! yee-haw!) and some veggies and dip. God willin' and the creek don't rise, we'll get a little sleep tonight, as Christmas Eve always tends to run to the wee hours. After all, we have to open all the gifts after dinner!

If I don't make it back here until the end of the week, let me wish you all a very happy holiday season! May you get everything you wish for!

Sunday, December 21, 2008

in which Vivi runs away

When Stéph started his paternity leave, he gave me an unexpected and much needed gift: a "Get out of Tiny Town Free" card. So last week I left the boys at home and went to Paris for the day.

On my way to meet Katia and kyliemac and Aimee for lunch, I happened to pass Saint-Séverin Church, which is special for me because it is one of the places my high school choir sang when we came to Paris nearly twenty years ago. (As an aside, I can't believe I could have done anything worth remembering twenty years ago!) I ducked inside and let my memories take me back. How lucky was I, going to Europe at the age of sixteen! That was supposed to be a once in a lifetime trip. Little did I know...

After marveling at the bizarre paths life takes us on for a while, I went on my way to El Sol y La Luna, where the girls and I indulged in some delicious South American fare (and good gossip!). After lunch, Aimee and I walked down to her tea house, L'Oisive Thé, so I could finally check out the renovations she did in August (lookin' good, as always!). Then we did a little Christmas shopping and it was already time for me to head back home.

It was a day out that I didn't realize how badly I needed until I was on the train back home. Settling in with a magazine and sore feet (seriously, why do I always wear the wrong shoes when I go to the city? Why??), I felt relaxed, focused, and ready to get home and scoop up my little Fry in my arms.

Friday, December 12, 2008

on doctors

I don't know if you've heard, but there's a crisis of sorts for doctors in this country. The problem isn't that there aren't enough doctors, it's that they only want to work in major metropolitan areas. That means that there are hundreds of small communities in France that have no local doctors and the inhabitants are forced to drive far from home to see a doctor, and while these communities often have nurses who make house calls, there are only so many things they can do to provide medical assistance.

Now, I knew this was true for small villages, but I never imagined that we would have the same problem here in Tiny Town! We are pretty much self-sufficient here, with two groceries, quite a few shops and services, and we find ourselves "having" to go to Troyes less and less for specific things. Don't get me wrong - Tiny Town has just about everything except, you know, entertainment, unless you count the bar down the street, so it's not perfect, but we get along alright. But it turns out that yes, we are having our own doctor crisis here in Tiny Town, which actually affects several communities in the area as well that rely on Tiny Town for their services, too.

When we moved to Tiny Town three years ago, one of us needed to see a doctor, so I did the sensible thing and chose the first name out of the phone book. Generally speaking, we were happy enough with Dr. A that we had him declared as our médecin traitant (pretty much the same as a primary care physician in the States, plus we receive a larger reimbursement when we see our médecin traitant than when we see another doctor). Soon, little things started bothering me: I always felt super rushed during an appointment with him, as if he was in a huge hurry (maybe typical in the States but not really here in France), and his hours left something to be desired. He only takes appointments in the mornings, and in the afternoons it's first come first served. Sounds nice, but we've waited upwards of two hours - not fun when you're sick. This is especially hard when you have an urgent situation and can't get an appointment in the morning. More than once, Stéph has gone to work sick when he should have stayed home because he couldn't stand the idea of sitting in the waiting room for hours on end to get the required doctor's note for his sick day.

During the course of my pregnancy, I never had a need to visit Dr. A, and if Stéph really needed to see a doctor on short notice and couldn't get in to see Dr. A, we called Dr. H, who works in the same building and always seems to have room in his schedule. Dr. H isn't exactly what you would call extroverted, but he seems like a good doctor and we've never had to wait long to see him. We started to wonder if we hadn't chosen the wrong doctor.

I've been wondering if it wouldn't be a bad a idea to change our médecin traitant for a while, but recent events have convinced me that it would be a good idea. First, when I got home from the maternity, I had to have daily shots for three weeks, so we had someone from the local nurse's office come by the house every morning (we paid a slightly higher fee - maybe around 40€ out of pocket in total? - but most of that was reimbursed). When we mentioned that Dr. A was our médecin traitant, one of them told us that in the last year he's cut his office hours in half because of other obligations and he's been trying to hire a doctor to share his office with him, but he can't find one that would be willing to work "in the country." Next, I made an appointment with Dr. A for Fry's first month appointment (since we don't have a pediatrician here in Tiny Town), and the soonest appointment available was two weeks out. Then, we finally had his appointment this week and the doctor seemed so rushed that I felt like we were being pushed out the door. When I called his office an hour later to clarify something he suggested during the appointment, I had barely said my name before he cut me off and said, "Look, can you call me back after 3:00?" and nearly hung up on me.

The final nail in the coffin is that I've had some kind of weird sickness happening this week. I started breaking out in a rash on Monday in the same area as where I had my injections, and they only got worse. Wednesday we decided that I'd better have it looked at, and knowing Dr. A would either be unavailable or I'd be forced to wait a couple of hours, I called Dr. H, who had an opening that very morning. He gave me a prescription and told me that if it wasn't better by Friday, I'd have to give him a call. Well, Friday came and it wasn't better, plus I'd been fighting a fever since the day before. He had me come back in that afternoon, put me back on an antibiotic and sent me off to have a blood test, and then we chatted about random stuff for another five minutes or so. We still don't know what exactly is wrong with me (I'm not going into great detail here in order to keep this already long post from gaining epic proportions), but I like Dr. H's method of actually admitting that he'd have to consult a colleague because my symptoms are weird and sending me for a test instead of jumping to conclusions, which is what Dr. A did when I told him the story of my headaches in the maternity.

For now, Stéph is hesitant to change primary doctors, but if you ask me, Dr. A won't even notice, especially since we didn't see him for nearly a year and he hardly batted an eye when we saw him this week. I think we'll have to make a decision soon, though, with Fry's monthly appointments, my mystery illness, and especially our peace of mind.

PS: Fry is in perfect health, by the way! At five weeks, he weighed in at 5.3 kilos (11 lbs, 11 oz) and was 57 cm (22.44 inches) long! He's already started to outgrow some of his smaller three month sized clothes, but part of that is because we use cloth diapers, which make his butt huge!

Monday, December 08, 2008

And now, a song

The first time I heard this song, it actually made me weepy. Ok, I was really hormonal at the time, as I was about eight months pregnant, but this is the song that I can't wait to dance to around the living room with Fry when he gets a little older. You can check out the lyrics here, but if you don't want to bother with the French, just know that he's basically singing "Let's all dance together and be happy." My kind of song.

Friday, December 05, 2008

time flies when you're in a sleep deprived haze

A month has passed already since Fry was born. A whole stinkin' month! My friend Doc is totally right when she says that time speeds up once they exit the womb. Plus I know he's gotten bigger, I can see it in his clothes and how he fits in his car seat, but he still looks the same to me. His hair is still on the dark side with some reddish-chestnuty highlights, like his father's, and his eyes are still blue-grey, also like his father's. He still strongly favors my side of the family from the nose down. Sometimes he makes a face that so strongly resembles my Dad that even Stéph has noticed it. He's starting to follow us with his eyes and even though his smiles are still involuntary, it's easy to believe that he's smiling just for you.

He would be perfectly angelic if it weren't for the fact that his favorite game every evening is to scream bloody murder ten minutes after you put him down and stop abruptly as soon as you pick him back up. Now, I'm all for cuddle time, but after SIX HOURS the game tends to grate, just a bit. Poor Stéph, Fry is perfectly calm and wonderful all day and it's only when Stéph comes home in the evening that the Screaming Game starts, usually from about 6 pm-ish until midnight-ish. Hopefully this phase will pass soon. The only good thing that's come out of this is that he very nearly slept through the night last night, from midnight until 5 am.

I can say that I totally understand why so many bloggers that are new parents drop off the face of the earth for a while after they bring a baby home. It's bizarre, you figure the baby sleeps most of the time so you'll be able to continue on in some manner as you did before. The problem is that babies suck the life force out of you. I've managed to keep the kitchen clean and laundry going, and that's about it. A lot the time, I find myself just sort of staring into space with no motivation to do anything else. I've started reading again, which is how I stay sane trying to rock Fry to sleep during the Screaming Game. Last night, on the phone with a dear friend, I found the only thing I could talk about was the baby. I've become one of those people.

So that's pretty much my life right now. If you can stand the excitement, please bear with me - I know I'll have some interesting things to blog about (other than "Fry pooped today! Woo!" god help me I will avoid that with every fiber of my being) here soon, really.